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These words were made to inspire, to help me grow, to progress, to simply vent, & to remember that life is a constant struggle but also a beautiful blessing. This is everything that either makes me or breaks me; all of which comes down to my unspoken words. Instagram - jcxlooove
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I have learned that people will always come and go in life; whether their purpose was just to make you happy for a moment in time, or for them to teach you a life lesson, people will always come and go. So, with that being said- how do we truly know if we’ve met “the one” ? The one who will stick around no matter how hard the times get. The one who will put up with all of your mood swings and temper tantrums when things don’t go your way at one point. The one who will cherish you and your very existence. The one who will give you their time and effort. The one who will give you their all because they know you’re the one who deserves it. The one who you can call at 3 in the morning knowing that they have to get up in 3 hours for work or school, and they wouldn’t have the slightest bit of hesitation answering it because they’re there for you and care for you more than anything. The one who you can either have endless conversations with, or have moments of complete silence with, and they’d still enjoy your company. The one after every fight will be the first to apologize, not just because they’re tired of fighting with you, but because they’d be willing to take the blame for anything because they love you that much. The one who will love you to pieces even with every flaw you have. See, it’s so easy to just write all of those down and check them off as you go when they’re always sitting right next to you or just a single drive away. But what happens when they’re not? When they’re in a totally different state or even half the world away from you? Things get so much more challenging, but still, nowhere near impossible.
Finding “the one” is already hard enough as it is, but determining if they are truly “the one” is a whole different side of the story. Anybody you meet could possibly make you feel like they’re “the one” if they have the ability to make you happy for a period of time. But what happens when things start to go downhill with that person, and you all of a sudden break up? The whole meaning of being “the one” fades because you made the mistake of calling them something they truly weren’t meant to be in the first place. Saying the three most strongest words when they’re not meant to be said is bad enough, but giving someone such a remarkable title that’s not meant to be theirs I believe, is worse. You just can’t use the words “I love you” and “you’re the one” so freely like that. If you don’t mean it, why say it? I know it’s so easy to say such things when you feel like your whole world is spinning just because of that one person, but don’t be too quick to judge. So back to the major question… How do you determine if he/she is the one?
Well, it’s not easy. Hell, it’ll never be close to being easy. Love itself, is probably one of the most complicated and most frustrating things on Earth. I’ve dealt with many things growing up, and falling in and out of love was a huge part of that. But even after all of my past experiences, I can honestly say that it only gets harder as you mature. Why? It’s for that exact reason- You’re maturing. Love to you isn’t the same as it was when you were younger. Your definition of love is no longer “the thing my mommy and daddy say to each other every morning before work”. But at the same time, the more you mature, the easier it can be for you. It all really just depends on how you look at things. My answer to the question though, is this… I don’t think you’ll truly 100% know if you’ve found the one or not. Regardless of the type of relationship you’re in, whether you’re in person or long distance lovers, it will always be difficult to tell. Just don’t go throwing the words “you’re the one” out to just anybody. If you feel it in your heart that you’ve found the person you’ve been searching for, tell them. Does that mean they’re the one for you? Maybe, maybe not. Even after couples get married, we have to remember that divorce exists now, and just because you’re married, doesn’t mean you’ve found “the one”. And no, I’m not saying that to look down on marriage because I believe in marriage with all my heart and wish to have nothing to do with divorce when my time finally comes to get married, but with today’s society these days, it really is more difficult to tell. All I can truly say is, never lack on love. Always love fully if they’re worth it, but trust carefully. Be careful whom you give your heart to. And most importantly, don’t ever let anyone have the ability to take away your smile. Leave room in your heart to love and respect yourself. Because if you don’t love and respect yourself, how could you ever expect someone else to love and respect you? And how could you ever love and respect someone else?
Now I’m not a relationship specialist and I really am no one to tell you how to love someone, but I really hope this helped, even just a little bit. Just remember- true love is sacrifice. You are going to have to give up a little of your spare time to spend it with your significant other, just like they’re going to have to do for you as well. Just learn to compromise with one another. Take time to make things work, and if it’s not working, make it happen somehow. If you truly love each other, you’ll do everything it takes to make things stable again. Always find that healthy balance with each other. It should always be 50/50. Nobody should ever be the leader nor the follower, because you two should be walking side by side and hand in hand. But always be ready to learn from the other, give to the other, and receive from the other. Because a healthy relationship is about give and take, not lose or win or who’s right or wrong. Love each other, trust each other, have faith in one another, pray for one another, take care of one another, be there for one another, and never lose hope in your tomorrow together. Because if there can be tomorrow, why the hell can’t there be another one? Make it work.
My last and final words… It is going to be tough. It’s a challenge finding love. It’s a challenge being IN love. Love is an everyday challenge, but it also makes you stronger. It tests your endurance. It builds your faith and trust. It helps you find and build yourself. It may take you a couple of the wrong one’s to help you finally get to “THE ONE”, and that’s completely okay. That’s normal. And for all my long distance lovers out there, BIG UP’S TO YOU! Thank you for being the few people who believe in love and loving someone, even at a distance. I know it gets hard sometimes, but keep at it. Keep fighting for the one you love, and don’t let all that constant negativity from others bring you down. Everyone is destined to be with someone- just don’t rush into it. There’s a time and place for everything. You’ll get there. You’ll make it. You’ll be okay. Just hang in there <3
“Don’t give up on your faith, love comes to those who believe it, and that’s the way it is.” — Celine Dion.
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Anonymous asked: how r u nd ur boyfriend ? can u like tell me how u manage to cope wid that in details ?
We’re actually doing really well! :) We just celebrated our 3rd monthsary on the 25th. It hasn’t been long yet, but this is longer than I thought we could go considering the fact that we live in two different countries with a 14 hour time difference. It definitely is hard dealing with the stress of being so far away, but we manage perfectly fine. Just knowing that we are still able to have an incredible bond and such a strong love keeps us going.
Remember — love has no distance.
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I love,
the reassurance that my boyfriend gives me. His comfort, even when he’s half the world away from me, feels so amazing. Things aren’t going too well for me right now, but I know I can always count on him to put a smile on my face. After everything, all I can say is I am one blessed girl to have someone like him in my life. He truly is something special, & like I said before, I wouldn’t trade him for anything in this world. He is beyond everything any girl could ever wish for.
He makes me feel so important. He shows me that he truly cares for me & my well being, and he always lets me know that I’m never alone through anything. Even if he’s not here with me physically, he’s always here in heart. As corny as that sounds, that’s basically all we have right now. What I love most is that he always sees the best in me. He always sees beauty in me no matter how messed up I’m looking on webcam. He always makes me feel so comfortable in my own skin. No matter how hard the situation is, he toughs it out for me. For us, & for our relationship.
Even though I can’t hold him or see him as often as I’d like, he really does mean the world to me. I don’t know what I would do without him in my life today. I mean, yeah, I’m not gonna say that I can’t survive without him because hell, I know I can. But life with him just couldn’t get any better.
Thank you Lord, for giving me such a beautiful blessing <3
I have finally come to my breaking point.
I have kept too many things in, and eventually, the only thing left to do was just break down. I honestly don’t know what’s happening to me at this point in my life, but all I know is, I’m so unhappy. Ever since I came back from Philippines, my life has just been empty. So lifeless.
School. — I’m sure many of you have felt this way at least once when it came to school, but I have seriously lost my motivation. I’m so sick & tired of worrying about school, about perfecting every little thing on every little college paper I write, about showing up on time and never leaving early, about working my ass off studying for everything, and the list goes on. I honestly just want to live my life with no worries anymore. I’m tired of thinking too far ahead. I’m tired of worrying so much about my future. My future will work its way here, but for now? I just want to live. Don’t get me wrong, I care about school. I care about my education. & it’s not that I don’t have a plan for myself and that I could care less about what happens. It has NOTHING to do with that. I’m just tired. I’m sure many of you are too, and if you still have your motivation to proceed with school, then good for you. That’s something to be really proud of. I wish I was more like you.
Family issues. — I know every family goes through their own series of problems and personal issues every now and then, but it seems like such an endless battle for mine. I moved back to Fairbanks (from Anchorage) to be closer to my friends & family, but I’ve never felt so distant from them. Even when they are right in front of my face, I don’t feel as if I’m really “close” to them anymore. This pertains mainly to my family. We’ve become so broken throughout the years that it feels almost impossible to put back all the broken pieces. Sometimes, I wonder if it’ll ever be the same again, even if I know that that’ll never happen. I wish I was closer to my parents, though. I wish it was so easy to open up to them. I wish it was easy for them to understand my decisions and for us to talk about them. I wish they would support me as often as they should. I wish they were more approachable whenever I have a problem or just something on my mind. But it’s impossible for them to ever understand me. They try so hard to keep me from making the same mistakes they did when they were my age, but truth is, they have NEVER walked the same shoes as I did. They have never felt or even experienced half the things I experienced growing up, and I know they know in their hearts that that’s the truth. I guess it works both ways, though. I’m just tired of getting accused for things I never do. I’m tired of them looking at me as such a fuckup & a disappointment to this family. I’m tired of being the reason for why everything bad has to happen to us.
This long distance is killing me. — I’m not going to complain about this much because it was my decision from the start to go through with this relationship or not, and it’s still my decision now whether or not to end it. But I’m not going to give up that easily. I’m not the type to give up on someone that easily anyway. It just hurts being so far away, and knowing that there’s nothing I can really do about it just makes everything worse. I’ve experienced long distance relationships before, but never like this one. For one, we’re in two different countries. We’re half the world away from each other with a fourteen hour time difference. Like I said, I’m not going to complain about this much. If I wanted to end things, I would’ve done it a long time ago. But I love my boyfriend with all my heart, and I’m not giving up. I realize things aren’t going to get any easier from here either. It’s been one hell of a ride so far, and I know we still have so much more in store for us, but I’m ready to face whatever comes. I just wish we could do that side by side. It kills me knowing how much pain he’s in; how much pain WE’RE in. But everything has a price. This is ours.
Everything else, just stresses me. I can’t find my happiness anywhere here. I need something new. I need change. DRASTIC CHANGE. I need to stop surrounding myself with all this bullshit, & just start fresh. Even if that means distancing myself away from my closest friends and family. I know so many people will probably turn their backs on me for making this decision, and probably for even thinking like this. But I’ve spent my whole life pleasing others. It’s time to do something for myself.
